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Generations 3

 

I don’t know the girl

called Shut Up Arianna

her mother I know

Shut Up Ari’s mom

was called Raggedy Ho by

her mom, Stupid Bitch

Shut Up Ari speaks

like those around her whose speech

and affect are flat

Tell me: Why does a toddler have ample amounts of time to stand in the window or doorway and shout her cousin’s name? He is 10, and tired of babysitting, wants to play with other boys, his peers. Why is Raggedy Ho not engaging her daughter, not interacting with her except for Shut Up, Arianna? Is it only me, or does anyone else see something wrong with this picture?

Health and wellness

On adoption

I am always troubled by people who oppose abortion and support citizenship for the unborn. They wouldn’t lift a finger to help a pregnant woman or girl to raise the child they punitively want to force her to birth, nor will they adopt orphans already in the world who could use a loving home and parent(s).

My cousin was a Korean war orphan who was adopted by my aunt and uncle when she was a baby. They could not adopt an American child because my aunt had a chronic disease, lupus. She survived and, with her husband, raised my cousin to adulthood. My aunt lived long enough to be with her grandson, too.

A gay couple that I have known for many years has adopted 5 special needs children, all of different ethnicities. They also fostered children until their own family grew too large to allow them to continue to do so. Years ago, they, like my aunt, would not have been permitted to open their home and hearts to these unwanted children. Thankfully, times and policies change.

I encourage anyone with the means and the heart to adopt, and consider adopting older children who languish in foster care and group homes until they age out of the system. Special needs children take a great deal of time and effort to parent, but are deserving of the commitment and perseverance their care requires.

All orphans have special needs: they need homes, families to love them and meet their overall needs for food, clothing, shelter, and guidance. Open your hearts and homes to children already living and breathing. It is the most responsible thing we, the living, can do.